This afternoon I dumped a week’s worth of feelings onto my desk. Originally, I planned to let them stack up inside the bear container, but it was confusing to keep track of which ones I had read and which ones I had not, (not to mention the voyeurs peaking into the clear container trying to read each other’s secrets). So, the bear cleansed his feelings. He feels much better now.
Frustrations, anger, happiness, excitement, crushes, hurt feelings, jokes, concern over the imminent end of the world…
I have to admit, I felt a little bit like an advice columnist this week. Case in point:
Dear Mrs. M,
I have a problem. My friend likes this girl and I like the same girl but I don’t want to hurt my friend, what do I do? I think she likes me too…
Funny how early these problems start. I remember the same conundrum, which actually resulted in my relationship with my husband. My friend liked him first. Tricky territory. I told the kid it seems important now but it won’t be forever, be kind and don’t worry so much.
Sifting through all the feelings this afternoon, making sure I did not miss any cries for help, I discovered my own lesson. The jar was good because it gave me a space to deflect some of their stress instead of instantly absorbing it. I was able to deal with their energy when I was ready. Likewise, throwing out the pile at the end of the week left me cleansed, too.
Have anything you need to throw out this week?
No time like the present.
“be kind and don’t worry so much”–sound advice for any circumstance.
Agreed. I should listen to myself 😉 I’m generally kind, but the worrying thing is more difficult.
Thanks for sending some inspiration my way! We’ve created our own jar this week, and it has definitely helped my kiddos feel like their feelings are honored. 🙂